The Emotional Moment on 'Tea with Judi Dench'
Sir Ian McKellen was moved to tears during a recent episode ofTea with Judi Dench on Sky, as he read a poignant passage about coming out. The acting legend, 85, became visibly emotional while reciting an extract from Armistead Maupin'sTales of the City alongside his close friend Judi Dench.
In the touching segment, McKellen read a letter from the novel's character to his mother, which powerfully revealed his sexuality. The passage clearly struck a chord with the veteran actor, who later expressed regret about the timing of his own coming out to his late parents.
"It was such a moving experience for both of us," a source revealed. "The emotion was completely raw and real."
A Formative Text
Tales of the City, first published in 1978, holds significant personal meaning for McKellen. The novel, one of many Maupin wrote about life in San Francisco, features a gay character as a central figure—something that resonated deeply with McKellen.
As he read, McKellen's voice trembled: "I'm sorry it's taken me so long to write, mama. Every time I try to write to you and papa, I realize I am not saying the things that are in my heart..." The emotional weight of the letter, which speaks of revulsion and shame before embracing one's truth, was palpable.
Coming Out and Activism
McKellen, who publicly came out in January 1988 at the age of 48 during a live radio debate about Section 28, has remained a vocal advocate for LGBTQ+ rights. The controversial legislation, introduced by Margaret Thatcher's government, aimed to ban local authorities from 'intentionally promoting homosexuality.'
In response to a question about the law, McKellen stated, "I certainly would [like to see it abolished]." He also described Section 28 as "offensive to anyone who is—like myself—homosexual."
That same year, he helped found Stonewall, the LGBTQ+ rights charity named after the historic 1969 riots in New York City. Section 28 was finally repealed in 2003.
A Sweet Friendship
During their conversation, McKellen also shared his one major regret: "I have few regrets in my life, but that's one of them, that I didn't [come out to my parents earlier]."
The tender moment was met with heartfelt compassion from Dench, who responded, "Don't be sorry, don't ever be sorry."